CAUGHT IN A SHAM ROMANCE: HOW TO SPOT ONLINE DATING SCAMS

What red flags should you look out for when entering the wild world of virtual romance?

- KIM KEY

Online dating is tough. I should know—I certainly gave it a try. I was young, bright-eyed, and not at all interested in finding love at church, in school, or via a matchmaking relative. It took a while, but eventually, the right person came along and virtually swept me off my feet with online conversations about our mutual love for Southern-style macaroni and cheese. Love works in mysterious ways.

My story is a happy one, but a growing number of people are finding headaches and heartbreaks on dating sites and chat apps as scammers look to cash in on people looking for love online. The popular Netflix documentary film, The Tinder Swindler, is about a man posing as a mogul who woos women online and bilks them out of millions. The US Federal Trade Commission recently issued a report outlining common lies scammers use to get their victims to send them money. Here are some highlights:

Scammers often say they live or work abroad. Scam artists love long-distance relationships. Whether the person claims to be a doctor working overseas, an active duty military member, or a lonely oil rig worker, ask pointed questions about their background and profession.

Scammers ask for money. That train is never late. If someone starts asking you for money to pay for travel expenses, medical procedures, customs fees, or a visa, they may be a scammer. Never send money to someone you only know online.