The Secrets To More Satisfying Sex

We called on one of the Internet’s most sought-after sexperts for advice

- Charli Penn

When it comes to getting intimate, no one minds your between-the-sheets business quite like Shan “Shan​ Boody” Boodram (below), a certified sexologist, a dating coach and one of YouTube’s go-to girls for all things sex-positive. With more than 35 million views and counting, Boodram’s no-nonsense real-talk channel has catapulted her to the top of our social feeds. We know having satisfying sex is essential self-care, so we asked the Canadian-born bestselling author to give us the deets on how to achieve it after she recently published her new book, The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating With Dominance—and Getting What You Want.

ESSENCE: It can be challenging to enjoy sex when you’re not yet emotionally intimate. What’s a single girl to do?