S&M And The School Run

Every working mum juggles their career with raising children. But what if your day job is being a dominatrix? Three women tell Cleo Glyde how they balance their kids with their kink

BLAKE, 40 HAS A SON, 13, AND DAUGHTER, 10

“I trained to be a dominatrix at a dungeon for two years, then started working independently three years ago. In my former life, I worked in publishing, was married with two children and had a house in the suburbs – but was absolutely miserable. When an old friend committed suicide, I realised life is too short to be unhappy. After separating from my husband, I became a receptionist at a brothel and threw myself into kink and BDSM [Bondage/Discipline/ Sadism/Masochism], which I had always been drawn to. Apart from the techniques, a dominatrix needs the ability to read and respond to people without them having to speak. Many clients want me to be cold and cruel, but there can be a certain intimacy too. I have a young deaf client who has very heavy sessions. Sometimes we’ll end with his head in my lap as I stroke his hair for 10 minutes. I also do fetish work and receive foot worship, which I love. But everything I do is CFNM (Clothed Female/Nude Male).

Sometimes I’ll be at a fetish event in thigh-high boots and have to rush home, take off the make-up and latex, then pick up my kids. Costume change! In the school holidays, when I need to work, the kids see me in full make-up, with jeans. My daughter thinks it’s great that I get to wear high heels. I always tell her, ‘That’s because I’m the boss!’