10 Spears That Destroy Marriages

Suzy Singh discusses the ten spears that destroy marriages, compelling partners to cheat on each other

- Suzy Singh

In part one of this two part series I proposed the need to have a more compassionate view towards adultery. I shall now dive deeper into the empathy worthy motivations that cause partners to cheat.

The five spears of womanly errors

There are the five spears that pierce a man's heart, awakening in him the relationship wanderlust and luring him to go astray. These are;

1. The ego-bashing spear

When the female partner repeatedly blames and shames her man, either directly, by taunting or criticising him, or in passive aggressive ways that minimize him, making him feel good for nothing, or utterly useless, the man begins to seek other women around whom he can feel safe and accepted. These friendly interactions usually start out as innocent venting chats with friends, colleagues or acquaintances on dating apps, but can progress quite naturally into romantic dalliances.

2. The denied manhood spear

When the male partner is made to feel unmanly because he doesn't earn enough, or when he isn't perceived to be as powerful as the woman would like him to be, or if she treats him like a menial worker or handyman whom she can order around, she unintentionally castrates his manhood. Respect is vital in any enduring relationship and in its absence, men can get defiant and agitated, wanting to avenge their humiliation by getting back at their partner and the easiest way is to give his affections to another woman. Never hurt a man's gender image. It can infuriate him enough to test his manhood outside the relationship.

3. The no intimacy spear