Would you ask an ex what went wrong?

With more time on our hands than ever, some women admit to filling the void by calling up old partners to find out why they were dumped...

- CHERYL MUIR, AMERLEY OLLENNU

No: ‘The answers I wanted were within me’

Cheryl Muir, 34, lives in Bristol.

My life was full of dating drama back in my 20s. I found myself doing the same things in relationships over and over again. The person was different, but the pattern was the same.

And after the inevitable break-up, I’d find myself contacting my exes for the elusive closure I felt that I so desperately needed.

I cringe about it now, but I thought that I had to call them if I had any hope of moving on. Only, it never gave me the answers I needed – if I got any answer at all.

What I know now is that I was giving my power away. I was choosing to not move forward, to stay in a state of emotional pain, while I stared at my phone and waited for them to reply.