End of Year, End of Us

The holiday season may seem like an odd time to end things. Here's why so many relationships come undone in December, and how to make a graceful exit

- Shannon Manuel

AS THE YEAR nears its end, there's a subtle shift in the air - a mix of anticipation, pressure and deep reflection. For many of us, December is a time of connection and celebration, yet it often exposes hidden cracks in relationships, pushing issues to the surface. This season's milestone moments holidays, anniversaries and the upcoming New Year-prompt a period of intense soul-searching that can lead some of us to a difficult decision: ending a relationship.

Psychologists note that year-end emotional triggers can turn reflections on our lives and our relationships into a call for change, making holiday breakups common. One theory behind the surge in December breakups is the 'fresh start effect. Studies show that people are naturally inclined to seek self-improvement or lifestyle changes as a new year approaches, seeing it as an opportunity to press reset.

When individuals reflect on their goals and desires, relationships often come under scrutiny, and unresolved issues may seem more pressing. It's common to think, "Do I want to carry this with me into another year?" For some, the answer is no.

COMMON REASONS FOR DECEMBER SPLITS

For couples already on shaky ground, December intensifies pre-existing issues, making it hard to ignore. The holidays can heighten expectations and add stress, especially if the relationship involves multiple family gatherings, gift-giving pressures, or travel plans. If the connection lacks a solid foundation, these demands may overwhelm both partners and expose a lack of long-term compatibility.