SUPPORTING EXPECTANT FATHERS

Even though they are not physically carrying a new baby during the pregnancy period, expectant fathers go through profound changes too and also need our support. Ahead of our first ever event specifically to support new dads, we look at some important issues.

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During pregnancy, many women believe that fathers have it easy while they are the ones who are going through the physical and emotional effects of carrying the baby. But while husbands and first-time fathers may not always show it, the profound effects of becoming a father can be huge.

While you have a fundamental physical connection to your unborn child, he does not, which, in some cases, can sometimes make pregnancy and fatherhood seem frustratingly abstract - something he can't connect to in the same way as you. He is expected to be the 'support system' for you, be he may not be clear on what that means or exactly what he is supposed to be doing.

The psychological journey of pregnancy and childbirth is no less profound for the father than it is for the mother. He's worried about what kind of father he'll be, how he can afford having a child, how his relationship with his wife will change. And these are not minor issues they often occupy a man's mind all through the pregnancy.

But as important as these issues are, a lot of guys have trouble talking about their fears and feelings, or coping with them. Here are some of these common fears:

FEELING EXCLUDED

After the initial excitement of discovering that he's going to be a father, he may find himself feeling a little helpless while his partner is pregnant, or even after the birth. While you're picking out maternity clothes and your friends or family are rallying around you and you're being congratulated at baby showers, he does not have these rituals where he is around supportive people with whom he can express his concerns.