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“When a man puts his finger in your mouth, what do you do?” my friend Sophie, 30, asked as we sat having drinks in an east London bar. “Bite down?” I suggested. She explained that the context was dinner, date three, and he had, so far, been a nice man. Charming and chatty. They had kissed (no tongue). “He seemed interesting. So I didn’t want to just, you know, bite him.” He’d scooped out some mousse with his forefinger and the chocolatey glob was in her mouth before she realised what was happening. “I was still chewing other food,” she explained. “And then his finger stayed in there a beat too long. Does this count as assault?” She was laughing and so was I, but you do have to wonder what a man who feels comfortable fingering your mouth in public is capable of in private. She didn’t see him again.
I tell her about the time, a year and a half ago, when I went on a date and the man insisted, despite my protestations, on sitting next to rather than opposite me at dinner. We’d gone to a small Korean place near my office; low-key but great food. “It’s like we’re siblings,” I half-laughed when he sat down beside me. From time to time he’d rub my arm and say, “Your skin is so soft”. Later, after sex, he chastised me for being “unemotional”. “How could someone so soft in so many ways be so cold and hard in others?” He heaved himself over and pulled the duvet up dramatically. This was only our second meeting and I pointed out that it was absurd for him to sulk just because I didn’t want to spoon. “Maybe I like some space when I sleep?” I didn’t see him again. “There’s something unsettling about men who feel entitled to your personal space,” Sophie agreed. “Not danger-zone unsettling, but odd, you know?”
Diese Geschichte stammt aus der April 2019-Ausgabe von Elle India.
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