The Six Reasons You're Not Dating… (Yet!); Which Secret Thing Might Be Keeping You From Bae Bliss?

Stop us if this sounds familiar: One of your girls is swooning over how cute her crush looked in class. Your track teammate is asking if you’ve hit up that new drive-in movie spot because she wants to take her girlfriend this weekend. Your bestie just shared the sweet Spotify playlist her BF made for her. And let’s not even talk about the cringey-but cute “good morning” texts your friends can’t stop screenshotting and sending your way.

You’re happy for your pals, but you’re also cute, smart and (not to toot your own horn) pretty darn funny…so why isn’t someone planning a park picnic or scheduling an A.M. FaceTime with you? Well, consider this…

YOUR MUST LIST IS A MILE LONG.

Listen, we’re all about having high standards. But rolling out a scroll of impossible wishes (you’re looking for someone who’s tall, plays ukulele and has a 4.5 GPA) doesn’t ensure a perfect pairing—trust us. Unicorns may be pretty, but they don’t always make us happy.

Set aside your more superficial requirements and give someone unexpected a shot. It’s just a date, not forever.

YOU WANT YOUR FRIENDS TO *LOVE* YOUR CRUSH.

You think your lab partner is dreamy…until your bestie mentions your chem crush just isn’t her cup of tea, that is. You know your friends always have your back (and, yep, you really care about their opinions) but you aren’t trying to set up your crush with your girls.

If you’re feeling feelings, you owe it to yourself to explore them. Value your girls and their insights like gold (and listen up if they say things like, “They don’t treat you right”), but remember to put yourself first and date whomever you want.