Dear Carol

FRIENDS OR MORE? So I'm friends with this boy. People always assume he likes me because he is super nice to me and always smiles at me and stuff. What should I do?

- CAROL WESTON

Dear Friends Or More?, 

You're friends with a boy who's nice to you? Great! None of this is a problem. Maybe he has feelings for you, or maybe you'll suddenly find yourself with feelings for him. For now, why not just keep enjoying your friendship? Time will make things between you two clearer. Just ignore anyone else's opinion.

After all, your evolving relationship isn't a spectator sport, and the only feelings that matter are yours.

CRUSH ON MY EX

I think I might have a crush on my exboyfriend. Problem is, he has a girlfriend.

Whenever we hang out (we're really close friends), he sends me mixed signals and treats me as if we're still dating. I kind of hope he does like me back, but I'd feel terrible if they broke up because of me. I can't stop thinking about him. What should I do?

Dear Crush On My Ex,
If relationships weren't complicated, no one would read advice columns. I'm glad you and your ex have stayed friends, but it sounds like these mixed messages are keeping you both from moving on. Look, some couples do get back together...but since he's not single, your  best bet is to get some space from him and his GF. Hang with other friends and focus on yourself, and you'll start meeting other potential crushes. It may sometimes seem like there are only three people in the world, but there are over 8 billion.

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I'm having an issue with choosing a high school. Basically, where I live there are two high schools-and they're both really good.