10 Questions To Ask Before Marriage

And no, “ballgown or mermaid dress?” isn’t one of them! Mull over these with your fiance to see if you’re ready to say “I do”.

ASK YOURSELF

“Why do I want to get married?”

News flash: People actually do get hitched for the wrong reasons. If you’re marrying to make your parents happy or to avoid being left on the shelf, you’re better off returning that diamond ring, says Jasmine Siang, a psychotherapist at Heart-to-Heart Psychotherapy. “Because I’m in love” is not a strong enough reason, either. You marry someone because you want to create a future with him even after the lovey-dovey feelings fade.

“What are my expectations once I’m married?”

This is important, so start listing your topmost wants and needs in a marriage. Be realistic – “My husband must chauffeur me around everywhere” shouldn’t necessarily be top of your list. However, you can think about how you want your husband to treat you: Are you expecting him to give up certain habits, like his Saturday soccer dates with the boys? Would you expect him to reconsider overseas job postings if it meant a long-distance marriage?

“Is he someone I can see myself growing old with?”