Stop divorce from HARMING YOUR HEALTH

Struggling to hold it together post break-up? These wise words will help you to heal

Did you know that divorce is second only to the death of a loved one on the list of most stressful life events?* But there are ways through it. Here’s how to get past this painful period with your mental health intact.

Accept that it will hurt

Even if you know it’s for the best, it’s a shock when a relationship ends. ‘Everybody copes with separation differently,’ says Sara Davison, aka the Divorce Coach.** ‘It depends on your personality, lifestyle, financial situation and whether you have kids, or if it was your decision.’ There’s no right or wrong way to feel, and you may want to stay in bed and pull the duvet over your head, but trust that the dark times will pass.

Avoid wallowing

It’s important to cry and process your emotions, says Sara, and for this you will need compassionate, practical friends. ‘Not the friend who is going to come round and help you chop up his clothes,’ she says, ‘but who can give constructive advice.’ An exercise buddy who will go on walks with you or hit the gym – and who is going to hold you to doing that when you don’t feel like it – is perfect, she adds. ‘It’s important to get outside and move because that’s going to give you a natural boost to help you think clearly and make better decisions.’

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