Can Your Relationship Survive Addiction?
People Magazine South Africa|February 7, 2020
Loving someone with an addiction can be incredibly tough.
Can Your Relationship Survive Addiction?

AICOHOL. Drugs. Gambling. Pornography. Technology. Some addicts may joke about their ‘vice’ but for the ones who love them, it’s far from funny. Especially When you consider that one out of every five adults South Africans abuses substances like alcohol, dagga and painkillers, and around two and a half million are at risk of becoming or are probl em gamblers.

There’s no doubt that addiction in any of its forms can take a huge toll on relationships. While sex and technology addictions may grab headlines, the most common dependency issues impacting couples and families are substance abuse and gambling, says mental health researcher Professor Frances Quirk.

“For some people, within socially accepted norms, use can be something they can maintain all their lives and it has litile impact for them or anyone else. For others their use becomes more significant.”

If you’re trying to work out if your partner has an addiction, look for changes in their behaviour. They might not be coping well with things they used to cope with, or be neglecting themselves or other responsibilities, or being secretive and trying to hide the effects of their addiction.

You can also answer a simple online questionnaire to determine if someone you love has a problem. It typically includes questions about level of use, whether the person acknowledges their use and how they respond when it’s suggested they change or stop. There is simple addiction checklist at www.psychologytoday.com/za/blog/hoperelationships/201411/6-signs-youre-addicted-something or you can search for one online.

However, Quirk says, it is common for there to be an event or moment when neither of you can pretend any longer – which can put a relationship built on trust on very shaky ground.

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