Are Breakups Secretly The Best? Hear Us Out...
Girls' Life magazine|December / January 2021
6 love resolutions from the biggest relationship busts.
By Patricia McNamara
Are Breakups Secretly The Best? Hear Us Out...

No doubt about it: Just like Taylor Swift, there will be plenty of frogs to kiss before you find your Joe Alwyn. And, yes, breakups are a bummer. But that doesn’t mean those toads can’t teach you a lesson—like what to avoid or look out for in your next relationship. Here, your fellow GL girls share the lessons they’ve learned from their biggest bae mistakes so you can avoid the same blunders.

LOVE LESSON #1

BEWARE THE CONTROLLING CUTIE

There’s a big difference between nice and needy. Someone who’s truly smitten will support your space. Take it from Madison S., 14: “Josh would walk me to class; carry my bag. It was sweet, but it got weird. Soon, he wouldn’t give me back my books until I kissed him. And he’d freak if I said hi to a guy in the hall. I now know that some of those ‘nice guys’ who want to be close all the time are actually trying to exert control over you.”

LOVE LESSON #2

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