Mirror, mirror
Fairlady|August 2020
It’s common to feel insecure about a facial feature or body part, especially in adolescence. But when this becomes a persistent fixation that affects your daily life, it can be a sign of body dysmorphic disorder – for which you need to get help.
GLYNIS HORNING
Mirror, mirror

Boobs too big? Butt too small? Teeth skeef? Body hair like a baby gorilla? Many of us have hang-ups about our faces or figures, especially in the age of social media, when our images are everywhere and the smallest perceived flaw can feel cringeworthy.

Even celebrated beauties aren’t immune. Kylie Jenner reportedly hates her lips – hence the lip filler: ‘It’s been an insecurity of mine all my life,’ she told Complex magazine. ‘This guy I kissed was like, “Your lips are really small but you’re a really good kisser. I didn’t think you were gonna be good at kissing.” From then on, I just felt like I saw guys staring at my lips. I felt like no one wanted to kiss me.’

Beyoncé apparently has issues with her ears: ‘I wear big earrings because I don’t like [my ears],’ she told Essence. Rihanna hates her cellulite. And Miley Cyrus has confessed to hating everything about her face and body: ‘I was told for so long what a girl is supposed to be from being on that show [Hannah Montana],’ she told Marie Claire. ‘I was made to look like someone I wasn’t, which probably caused some body dysmorphia because I’d been made pretty every day for so long, and then when I wasn’t on the show, it was like, “Who the f*ck am I?”’

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