WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT... GRIEF

After the sudden loss of their mothers, Sally Douglas and Imogen Carn share the realities of grieving

- Sally Douglas and Imogen Carn

Grief is a universal experience, yet we're often not prepared for it when it happens to us. Western society knows how to love but we don't deal with death. We don't talk about grief and because of that we perceive it as something that happens in private.

We have this idea that if you talk about the person who died, you're making that person sad or reminding them of their loss.

We both lost our mums within a few months of each other and one of the biggest fears we shared was that people were going to forget our mums or stop saying their name - as if they didn't exist. Getting comfortable with talking about grief is not just important for the grievers, it also better educates people on how to approach it. Grief is awkward to talk about but it doesn't have to be. If you want to support someone who is grieving, don't worry about being poetic or saying anything too profound, just be really real with the language you use and acknowledge that the situation is shit.