How to Know If You Are Bisexual

A compilation of confessions from a thread on Reddit where women share their journey of stepping into their own and realising they are also into other genders.

Being bisexual isn’t always easy. There are still so many misconceptions about bisexuality, and that can be incredibly frustrating. So if you are wondering, ‘Am I bisexual?’, you need to be wary of the BS. Despite what you may have heard, bisexual means being attracted to more than one gender— it doesn’t mean attracted to just men and women. Gender, like sexuality, exists on a spectrum. It is not binary. If you are attracted to people regardless of their gender, and have the potential to be attracted to someone of any gender, you could be pansexual. Other people might use queer. The label you use is up to you: there is no right or wrong when identifying your sexuality. Here, real-life bisexuals explain via Reddit how they knew they were attracted to people of more than one gender.

”I didn’t let myself use the label until I’d actually slept with a girl, which happened when I was 22. But the signs were there early on, and I had been actively fantasising about it for years. I still gravitate towards the label ‘bi’, and don’t like that people keep calling that label transphobic or exclusive of non-binary gender identities... Because, that’s not how the bi community defines it. I’m ambivalent about calling myself pansexual, since I really haven’t encountered a gender identity I can’t be attracted to. But many pan people describe themselves as feeling like gender is irrelevant to their experience of attraction, and that’s not true for me.” @cosmeticsnerd.