FLIRT WITH FINESSE

‘How do I approach him? What do I say?’ When it comes to flirting ALISON SIFUMA shows you 2020’s full proof techniques to get a man this Valentine’s.

- ALISON SIFUMA

There you are out for the night; little black dress, heels that are killing your feet, hair done and redone to a perfect messy bun, smelling edible, and looking hot. You are seated at the bar a drink in hand, and then you see him, the Michael Ealy of your dreams, walking towards you. He leans over at the bar to order a drink, turns his head towards you and throws a ‘hey’. In that instant, every form of language ever learnt flies right over your head, not even a wimpy ‘hi’ comes out your lips. You completely freeze up until he walks away.

We’ve all been presented with the perfect opportunity to say something to our crushes. Instead, we sit there with sweaty palms praying for a miracle that somehow he will automatically read your mind and know that you fancy him.

If you want to turn that crush into something more, you need to learn how to flirt with your crush to get the energy going between the two of you.

Here are ways to turn on that feminine charm.

HOW TO GET ON HIS RADAR

Smile I know, seeing your crush approaching can be the scariest feeling in the world. Your heart is racing (possibly out of your body towards him). You are worried about how you look, or if you have peanut skin or spinach in your teeth. Normal gut reaction is to pretend like you're in a furious text conversation, hide behind your friends or turn and walk away from them. Ignore those instincts. Look up, and smile at them.

No need to get into a big conversation (unless you want to). Take a second to wave, say hi, then keep moving. Boom! you're on your crush's radar.

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