No, You Can't Have Me...Yet

If you’ve never played hard to get with your husband, you might want to now. As 38-year-old sales manager Karen* shares, making him wait is a great way to put the fun back into your sex life.

- Sasha Gonzales

“Eugene* and I have been married for 11 years. We have sex once or twice a week. It’s always satisfying, but we rarely have time for foreplay. We’re both exhausted by the time we get into bed – work and our two young kids keep us on our toes – so it’s almost always impossible to enjoy more than 10 or 15 minutes together when we do make love.

“But foreplay is so important. Before life got super busy, Eugene and I would spend ages in bed together, just kissing, messing around, and building up this crazy sexual tension. Then we’d have the most explosive sex.”

It Started When I Forgot My Undies 

“But while we don’t have that much time for foreplay now, I think we’ve stumbled onto something even better. It started three years ago, when I forgot to wear my undies before leaving the house for afriend’s wedding. I know it sounds ridiculous. Who would forget to put on underwear, right?

“But Eugene – who’s 40 and a business manager – and I were rushing as we were very late for the wedding. I’d planned to wear my lace undies with a formal long dress and kept reminding myself to take them out of the drawer. But the scene at home was so chaotic that it wasn’t until we’d arrived at the venue that I realised I was pantyless.

Blushing, I turned to Eugene and said, ‘Oh my gosh, I forgot to put on underwear!’