Don't Let Your Kids Rule Your Marriage
The Malaysian Women\'s Weekly|March 2018

Sure, you love your children… But remember to always put your relationship first

- Tan Gin Yee
Don't Let Your Kids Rule Your Marriage
In marriage, children can be one of the greatest threats to happiness. While this may sound ridiculous, it can be all too true when parents get caught up in child rearing, putting all their energy into their offspring and neglecting their own marital relationships.

Author Dr William Doherty, whose book A Strong Marriage was released recently, says focusing too much on our kids can cause relationships to unravel. But, he adds there’s a lot we can do about it. “Most of us want to give our children the best, and we expend a lot of energy doing this. The trouble is, it is often detrimental to our own marriages.”

While Dr Doherty acknowledges that parents must pay attention to their children’s needs, he says, “There is a big difference between adjusting your marriage to meet your children’s needs, and losing your marriage to parenthood.” He believes marriage is the foundation of two-parent families – the core relationship, and one that needs to be protected. “Children rely on the stability and security of our marriage for their own security and stability. When it goes sour, the family goes sour.”

KEEPING THE LOVE ALIVE

Many couples do not know how to keep the love alive past the honeymoon stage, and the arrival of children only complicates matters. Children often “own” their parents, with few limits on how much attention they are given. “Parenting has become a 24-hour, seven-day-a week store, with service on demand,” says Dr Doherty.

この蚘事は The Malaysian Women\'s Weekly の March 2018 版に掲茉されおいたす。

7 日間の Magzter GOLD 無料トラむアルを開始しお、䜕千もの厳遞されたプレミアム ストヌリヌ、9,000 以䞊の雑誌や新聞にアクセスしおください。

この蚘事は The Malaysian Women\'s Weekly の March 2018 版に掲茉されおいたす。

7 日間の Magzter GOLD 無料トラむアルを開始しお、䜕千もの厳遞されたプレミアム ストヌリヌ、9,000 以䞊の雑誌や新聞にアクセスしおください。

THE MALAYSIAN WOMEN\'S WEEKLYのその他の蚘事すべお衚瀺
25 Life-Changing Budget Hacks
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

25 Life-Changing Budget Hacks

Follow these money tips to become the savviest you yet

time-read
5 分  |
December - January 2019
Why Women Devour Erotic Fiction
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

Why Women Devour Erotic Fiction

Women who read erotic fiction have better sex lives than women who don’t. We look at why turning pages can also help turn you on and discover why women are so aroused by erotic literature in all its forms

time-read
6 分  |
February/March 2020
Can Superstition Enhance Your Life?
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

Can Superstition Enhance Your Life?

The power of positive thinking and a belief in lucky charms might be all it takes to turn your fortunes around

time-read
4 分  |
February/March 2020
Know Your Children's Friends
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

Know Your Children's Friends

Want to know what makes your child tick? Take a look at their circle of friends – they can offer a surprising insight into your child’s behaviour

time-read
6 分  |
February/March 2020
Can Sleeping Apart Mend Your Marriage?
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

Can Sleeping Apart Mend Your Marriage?

More and more couples choose to sleep in separate beds, but this growing trend doesn’t mean the end of a loving relationship

time-read
8 分  |
February/March 2020
It's Time For South Africa
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

It's Time For South Africa

A country once mired in decades of violent social struggle brought about by racial segregation policies and laws, it has gone through a rebirth and is flourishing like never before

time-read
5 分  |
February/March 2020
Shiny, Happy Sheila
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

Shiny, Happy Sheila

Cover girl Sheila Sim knows a thing or two about living life to the fullest. The star shares her get-happy formula with us

time-read
5 分  |
February/March 2020
Adventure With A Cause
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

Adventure With A Cause

Some of us may know her as the lady behind one of the most successful premium laser treatment centres in town, but away from work, Erin Sandral thrives on adventure and seeks to improve the lives of underprivileged women

time-read
4 分  |
February/March 2020
We Wish You A Pleasant Flight
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

We Wish You A Pleasant Flight

Other than tense muscles, dehydration and sleeplessness, air travel can affect our bodies in many other ways – here’s what you need to know

time-read
3 分  |
December - January 2019
Prosperous Delights
The Malaysian Women's Weekly

Prosperous Delights

Tasty treats during Chinese New Year is all part of the festivities to spread joy and good luck. We asked Assistant Pastry Chef Yap Wai Keong from One World Hotel Petaling Jaya to share with us a few auspicious recipes that will bring happiness to your loved ones.

time-read
3 分  |
December - January 2019