How To Deal With The Common Problems Faced During Exam Time

Experts offer parents advice on how to approach this difficult time of year with as little stress as possible

- Nici De Wet And Kim Arendse

It’s almost time for the end-of-year matric exams. And while it’s a tough time for teens, exams can also be stressful for parents. You might be dealing with a child who’s easily distracted or one who’s so anxious about exams they feel depressed.

Experts answer some common problems faced during exam time and how to deal with them.

MY CHILD ISN’T MOTIVATED TO STUDY

Don’t get mad – get practical, says Cape Town-based psychologist Debbie Lopes. Help them draw up a timetable.

“This is an especially good idea if your child procrastinates,” she says. “If you have a timetable showing all the work to be covered over a number of days before the exams begin, then suddenly the exams don’t seem that far off.”

Try to understand what it is they’re struggling with, says Cape Town-based educational psychologist Simona Maraschin.

“If they’re struggling to find ways to study effectively, investigate various study methods or look for study skills courses in your area.”

Nagging is a no-no. “This is often a result of the parent’s anxiety but it’s not helpful to the child,” says social worker Talya Ressel.

“It only puts more pressure on them or makes them more resistant. Once you’ve given them the support they need, you should take a step back and let them fly.”

MY CHILD IS EASILY DISTRACTED

Some kids are simply more easily distracted than others, but where your child studies and what’s around them is of vital importance.

Cellphones, TV and computers are all distractions that should be discouraged.