A problem shared is a problem halved. Well, until itâs not, and a problem shared becomes the reason your marriage blows up and why youâre suddenly regretting not listening to your mum when she said, âDear, do you really need a ceremony that costs more than the deposit for a decent sized apartment in London?â Mum was right. You couldâve had a decent-sized flat as a pension investment instead of a honeymoon âto rememberâ and a fiveyear credit card bill to pay off.
Apologies if I sound annoyed by the marketing machine otherwise known as marriage; thatâs because I am. Not only does it leave young couples strung out and broke before theyâve even set off to build a life together, but I bet at no point before the big day did either partner have âThe Chatâ. As for âThe Chatâ. Iâll come onto that in a moment, but first, the propaganda â the latest of which comes in the form of a survey that reports that married people are less likely than their single counterparts to be depressed. Lol. The survey of 120,000 people from seven countries shows that no matter where people lived, those who were married showed fewer signs of depression.
On the surface, it would certainly seem The Marrieds have it all sorted, especially during the night when the worry monster pays us singletons an unwanted visit â 3am, eyes wide open, fear coursing through our nervous system, it feels like weâre having a heart attack. Not The Marrieds who, after a mere pat to their right, confirm, phew, their beloved spouse is right there beside them. Cosy in the knowledge everything will be OK because they are not alone and off they fall back to sleep. Granted, being single during stressful periods can feel isolating and nothing short of grim, but let me tell you, thatâs nothing compared to trying to exist within a lonely marriage.
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