Priority Mom

Women lead crazy lives with a lot of juggling in terms of demanding jobs, domestic chores and the schedules of kids, spouses, and families. Melissa Jane Cook stops the clock and gives some tips on letting go of the stress and keeping on top of the madness

The weight of the everyday hustle and bustle can push you down and start to make you feel like you’re running on empty. Taking just a little time to relax and be alone, or hang out with friends throughout your week can actually help you.

CARVE OUT TIME FOR YOURSELF

1. Make yourself a priority. You put everyone else first – your husband, the kids, boss, friends and the community – but do you ever have a moment of superiority? Probably not. It’s wonderful to assist others, but don’t forget to treat yourself every once in a while.

2. Start saying no! It doesn’t make you a bad person, no matter how guilty you feel. It’s only because you’re a giver that you feel that way. Don’t lend a helping hand if your hands are already full.

3. Schedule your me-time. Some people feel guilty reserving time for themselves. No matter what you think, it’s healthy, not selfish.

4. Create a personal space in your home just for you. Maybe it’s a tiny corner to squeeze your yoga mat into, or maybe it’s an art room where you can sketch or paint, read and drinking tea, and not think.

5. Buy time. Yes, it means spending money, but your time comes at a price too. Maybe you balance work, cooking, chores, and watching the kids just fine, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use a sitter or helping hand every once in a while. Having a nanny or babysitter for one or two nights a week can make a huge difference on your stress level and personal relationships.

CELEBRATE BEING YOUR OWN PERSON