Mummy, How Are Babies Made?

Your kids don’t have to be of a certain age for you to have the talk with them. Here’s how to discuss the birds and the bees with children of all ages, honestly and comfortably.

- Sasha Gonzales

It’s the conversation most parents dread – telling their young ones how babies are made and explaining awkward and complex topics, like sexuality and intimacy. Before you proceed, take note of what the experts have to say.

IS JUNIOR READY FOR A DISCUSSION ABOUT SEX? 

According to Ho Shee Wai, a psychologist and director at The Counselling Place, the issue is not so much about whether your child is mature or old enough to know about sex, but more about whether you and your spouse are ready to have the discussion.

“As parents, you should ask yourselves if you’re comfortable talking about sex with your child,” says Shee Wai. “You have to be willing to broach the subject. And when you do, you have to ensure that the information you’re sharing is accurate and age-appropriate.”

If your child asks about sex when you least expect it, however, you should do your best to answer her. “Never dismiss her curiosity about the subject,” says Hershey Regaya, programme manager at the Education & Outreach Department of the Family Life Society. “Questions should be answered as they arise so that her natural curiosity is satisfied as she matures.

“Make her feel that you’re an approachable parent so she won’t solely rely on friends or the media for answers about any sexual issues.”

You shouldn’t make your child feel bad for asking questions about sex, either, or she will think that talking about it is off-limits. Instead, affirm her interest and express appreciation that she raised the topic with you. “She should walk away with the impression that you and your spouse are the people to approach for questions about sex and sexuality,” Hershey adds.

SEX EDUCATION IS NOT A ONE-OFF DISCUSSION