7 Questions To Ask Before You Get A Divorce

If you are thinking of getting divorced, you want to be sure it is the right decision. Consider these points to determine if you are ready.

When it comes to divorce, severing emotional and domestic ties is not the only thing to consider. Ending a long-term relationship is a life-changing decision that is often driven by powerful emotions and it is rarely simple or straightforward. We do not always take into account practicalities regarding children, money and property.

If you are not sure you are making the right choice for you, or are worried about how your decision will affect your kids, or you have concerns about your financial future, read on.

Here are the key questions to ask yourself before officially ending your relationship.

1 Have You Tried Counselling?

It is worth seeking professional advice, if only to help you make a decision about whether it is worth trying to work on your relationship or confirm your belief that it is really not fixable, says Alexandra Barbas from Relationship Australia, Victoria.

“Counselling can help couples identify what is wrong and what could be good going forward. It can also remind you of the things that drew you to each other in the first place.”

If your partner refuses to try counselling, it is still a good idea to go alone. At least you will feel that you have given it your best shot.

2 Do You Need A Lawyer?

Divorce itself only ends the marriage, but orders about children or dividing property are separate proceedings, points out Helen Campbell, executive officer of the NSW Women’s Legal Service.

“For a divorce, if the parties are amicable, you can do it without a lawyer,” she explains. “Legal Aid runs free do-it-yourself divorce classes and many community legal centres can help with the paperwork too.” In Malaysia, you can log on to www.malaysianbar.org.my to find the nearest Legal Aid centres in your state.