What It Means To Be A Kid In The 21st Century

Free-range mom Lenore Skenazy talks with sociologist Frank Furedi about what it means to be a kid in the 21st century.

You may have heard the story about the Minnesota mother who faced jail time after accidentally failing to properly strap in her child’s car seat. Or the cops who arrived to question a mom who told her neighbors that her 9-year-old could help them do chores. Or the police officers who went door to door hunting for a man after he drove off from the mall with a toddler—who turned out to be his daughter. They’d been shopping. An onlooker had assumed he was a kidnapper and called the police.

We live in an age of fear, especially where children are concerned. Even as the world has become safer and richer, parenting has become a paranoid exercise in removing all possible risk from a child’s life. This is exhausting for parents and even worse for children. Too many have been taught that they are fragile, weak, and in constant danger. Instead of getting experience problem solving and bouncing back, they have grown up unable to rise to the challenges that life presents.

No journalist has more effectively chronicled the strange and dismal culture of contemporary child-rearing than Reason contributor Lenore Skenazy, 59, who is not ashamed of being “America’s Worst Mom.” She got that nickname after she let her son, then age 9, ride the New York subway home by himself in 2008. “Half the people I’ve told this episode to now want to turn me in for child abuse,” she wrote in a much-read piece for The New York Sun. “As if keeping kids under lock and key and helmet and cell phone and nanny and surveillance is the right way to rear kids.”