What It's Really Like To Have Sex With A Woman
Marie Claire South Africa|May 2017

Research says that more than half of women admit to having lesbian fantasies – but what is it like between the sheets? Three women share their experiences

What It's Really Like To Have Sex With A Woman

THE REALITY DIDN’T MEASURE UP TO THE FANTASY Mandy, 37, fulfilled a long-held desire, but it wasn’t what she expected

I was in my 20s when an imaginative woman sprung forth from my imagination and went down on me in the softest, most gentle and erotic way possible. As I masturbated, my mind took me deep into the fantasy and I experienced an orgasm that rocked my body to its core. My first reaction was guilt and confusion. I considered myself straight. So why, I asked myself, was I getting off thinking about women? These fantasies became a regular occurrence. Men barely featured.

But in real life I was still attracted to, and having sex with, men. I never even noticed flesh-and-blood women. It was confusing. Was I in the closet? Was I in denial? Did my fantasies make me a lesbian? After two years of questioning my sexual orientation, I fell in love with a man who I enjoyed having sex with and we entered into a committed relationship. But I secretly knew that if we were to break up, I’d have sex with a woman. After we separated eight years later, I met Juliet on a self-development course. She was intelligent, funny and self-aware. During the group sessions she was open about her sexuality. She wore her hair long and her T-shirts skintight. Juliet looked tough but her brown eyeshad extra long lashes that gave her a sweet prettiness.

I deliberately sought her out at the course after-party. I knew it would be up to me to flirt with her, because she would think I was straight and wouldn’t make a move. After several drinks my flirting became bolder. I remember touching her leg and leaving it there for an extra moment. I saw something shift in her eyes as she caught on to my interest in her that went beyond the friend zone.

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