In 1902, author Henry James told his nephew, 'Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.' My mum loved this quote, and integral to my upbringing was the belief that every human being deserves to be treated with kindness and dignity. Now, over a century later, ample scientific evidence shows that kindness could be even more important than Mr James or my mum - ever imagined.
Vanessa King, head of psychology at Action for Happiness, explains why kindness matters in today's world: 'Human beings are a social species, and kindness and empathy fuel social connection, helping us feel calm and safe. People are happier when they have others around them that they can turn to in good times, as well as bad, and when they live in communities where people trust each other.' She adds: 'Having close connections matters most, but all our fleeting connections with others add up to make a difference.'
Today's psychologists, doctors and life coaches all agree that random acts of kindness can promote compassion, improve your wellbeing, and make the world a better place. Even small acts can make a big impact. 'Micro-moments' of connection with others, such as sharing a smile or expressing concern, help to improve emotional resilience, boost the immune system, and build a more caring society. Even the simple act of holding a door for a stranger gives people hope. It tells them someone cares, and small acts stack up to create a culture of kindness.
Kindness is transformative, and acts of kindness - even those from years ago - shape who we are. When was the last time someone randomly smiled at you, complimented you on your dress, or waited to hold a door open for you? Chances are you remember it well, because we thrive on kindness - but did you know that being kind and receiving kindness can also add years to your life? This phenomena is known as 'the rabbit effect'.
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