Tips on navigating motherhood

Intensive mothering, a term coined by sociologist Sharon Hays, refers to a cultural norm and set of expectations emphasizing the idea that mothers devote a significant amount of their time, energy, and resources to their child’s upbringing.

The concept of intensive mothering, where public opinion influences the “right way” to be a mother, describes mothers as the primary and preferred caregivers by default, leaving little to no time for themselves.

“It is a common thing for mothers to deprioritize self-care during their pregnancy and even after delivery,” said Dr. Emerita Rilloraza, an OB-Gyne from Manila Doctors Hospital. “Mothers often feel the need to put their health care on hold to focus on others.” While this may be true for some people, this should not be the norm.

During a forum for expectant mothers, Dr. Rilloraza enumerated the major milestones and changes during pregnancy and early stages of motherhood. To help mothers of all ages, Rilloraza shared some health advice to help guide mothers and moms-to-be on their journey to motherhood:

• Before the baby is born. “During your pregnancy, your body changes as well as your outlook on everything, so it’s important to have the support of your loved ones,” Dr. Rilloraza said. During pregnancy, it is crucial to pay attention to health issues that may arise. These include pregnancy-related diabetes or high blood pressure and other complications. To prevent those, the doctor advised women to be mindful of their daily food and fluid intake. “Pregnant women should be getting enough nutrition during their pregnancy as it supports fetal growth and development, reduces the risk of complications, supports lactation, and maintains the mother’s health,” she added.