The power of ONE

It's the ultimate freedom, but it comes at a price - emotional and financial. The Weekly explores the highs and lows of living solo.

- SUSAN CHENERY

In her late 30s Connor Hartog’s life changed dramatically in ways she could never have predicted. A 10-year relationship ended, she was stood down from her IT job at Qantas because of COVID and found herself living alone for the first time in a decade during lockdown. In an apartment in Redfern, adrift from colleagues who had been like family, she was close to despair. She left Sydney, started to rebuild her life and herself, found a new job with a global software company and was able to buy a house in a northern NSW country town.

Now, she says, “I relish the weekends where I don’t have any commitments so I can be on my own. I look forward to thinking, ‘what do I feel like doing today? Do I want to lie on the couch and watch Netflix? Do I want to spend time in the garden? Do I want to catch up with the neighbours and have a drink?’ I don’t have to consult or confirm that it’s okay with anyone else. I can completely make my own decisions and that feels great.”

One in four Australians live in single-person households. There are 2.4 million single people in this country. Half a century ago, women were financially dependent on men and a spinster was a pitiable creature, some kind of social failure, a person nobody wanted. Since then, there has been a significant swing away from the traditional family towards the rise of the independent woman, living alone.