FINDING HOPE IN HEARTACHE
WOMAN'S OWN|February 19, 2024
In the face of adversity, these women were inspired to help others
HELEN RENSHAW
FINDING HOPE IN HEARTACHE

It's possible to turn loss into something beautiful'

Katie Carr, 45, lives in Barcelona with her partner and two young sons. 

Three months before his death, I interviewed my brother Toby for a podcast. If you want to do something, the time is now,' he said, an attitude that sprang from a lifetime adapting to loss. In 1988, when I was 11, our brother Marcus nine and Toby just six, we lost our mum Bron to a viral brain injury. A few years later, Marcus and Toby were diagnosed with Fanconi anaemia - a rare and life-limiting genetic illness that leads to bone marrow failure and various cancers and told they'd be lucky to get to 30. We reacted by doing everything we could today in case it wasn't possible tomorrow. Marcus became a GP and travelled the world, Toby was an architect and keen sea kayaker, and I went to live and work in Spain. Then our dad died suddenly in 2010. Seven years later, Marcus died of throat cancer. The grief Toby and I shared was terrible, but we each had a counterbalance of joy.

My first son had just been born and my brother set off on a sea voyage of discovery. He'd decided to kayak in each of the 31 areas in the BBC Radio 4 shipping forecast, the weather for the seas around the British Isles. He covered two-thirds but by late 2020 he grew exhausted and knew that something was wrong. After months of tests, he was diagnosed with incurable liver cancer in summer 2021.

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