Ray of Hope

Successful Relationships: as Important for Women in the Bedroom as in the Boardroom

- Paula Grooms

Sound sexist? While individuals do vary, the most recent brain research confirms the hard-wired differences of men and women that we all witness on a regular basis. In the snapshot of Lars and Lana’s life below, see if you can spot the subtle differences in the way each feel, think and behave, vis-à vis their gender and their work/relationship focus.

Lars and Lana have been married for six years. Lars is forty-two years old and works as a Senior Account Executive at a major Title and Escrow Company. He has weathered a great deal of upheaval at the company and hasn’t always been appreciated. Lars feels “sticking it out” has been worth it and that recent management changes will bode well for him in the long run.

At thirty-eight years old, Lana recently decided to forego making partner at her law firm where she has worked for ten years. Last year, she accepted a position as a legal recruiter – feeling that halving her salary was worth less demands on her time and that less stress would be more conducive to starting a family. A year ago, Lars was implicated in a scandal at his company. His former boss was unethical and felt he would save himself and his position, if someone as trusted and well-liked as Lars was brought into a scheme he attempted to execute. Lars was completely unaware of the activities of his boss, but until the truth was uncovered and his boss was fired, Lars was under a great deal of scrutiny and stress.