A Reporter at Large - The Fog
The New Yorker|April 10, 2023
Adoptees reckon with the secrets of the adoption industry and its emotional cost.
By Larissa MacFarquhar
A Reporter at Large - The Fog

“In order to be adopted you first have to lose your entire family,” Deanna Doss Shrodes says.

On August 1, 1966, a baby girl is born in Norfolk, Virginia. Her mother names her Melanie Lynn. She is placed in foster care for two months to make sure she has no medical issues. Then she is adopted by a couple who live a hundred miles away.

On a day in 1970, a baby girl is born in Incheon, South Korea, a port city just west of Seoul. Her mother names her Eun-hee. Eun-hee lives with her mother and her mother’s parents in Incheon until she is three years old. When she is nearly six, she is sent to adoptive parents in America.

On September 18, 1985, a baby girl is born in Chattanooga, Tennessee. Her mother does not give her a name. The mother relinquishes her at birth to an adoption agency. The mother is asked if she wants to hold the baby and says no.

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