Mary Waceke believes there is power in being your authentic self. She talks to ANDANJE WOBANDA about why she got into coaching and why she believes in defining her relationships.
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There is a clarity that comes with knowing who you are, what you want and how to get it. Mary Waceke is the epitome of this. She moves in a self-assured way, speaks with conviction about what she believes in and has made it her life mission to help people find their purpose. Her message in all her 11 years of life executive and business coaching has always been about the mastering of self through self-reflection, self-discovery, and self-awareness.
Why is the knowledge of self-important?
There is a clarity that comes with knowing who you are, what you want and how to get it. We are born without identity and it is a society that shapes us into who we become. There are a lot of people who are passive in this life, living as society dictates. Being present in your life means that you actively shape your experiences through personal values and beliefs, goal setting and daily discipline. That way, you get to live as the AUTHENTIC you.
Were you always this self-reflective as a child?
Yes, I was. I grew up in the outskirts of Nairobi, in Kiambu County, near Wangige. I was brought up in a traditional Christian home. My parents were disciplinarians but they passed on when I was eight years old. After that, I was raised by my sister Margaret Njoki who is 20 years older than me. She made sure that I continued to have a Christian upbringing.
When I was 11, I had started journaling as a way of self-reflection and goal setting. I started reading a lot of on vocation, meditation, and reflection, mostly texts from Christian philosophers and writers.
Why do you place emphasis on self-reflection and goal setting?
This story is from the April 2019 edition of TRUE LOVE Magazine East Africa.
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