Dating Apps: A Sexual Revolution

As the dating app sets up office in India, its first ever outside the US, Lhendup G Bhutia signs on to see what the fuss is all about. He comes out unwanted.

- Lhendup G Bhutia

The party has spilled out onto the streets. It is a Saturday evening. The patrons of Doolally Taproom, a trendy new pub in Mumbai’s Bandra suburb,s and both in and outside the outlet, craft beer and cigarettes in hand, whispering into one another’s ear. There are expatriates here, hipsters with large bushy beards, lumbersexuals (masculine young men with trimmed beards who wear flannel shirts, jeans and work boots, often tattooed, who don’t exactly cut down trees but could give small woodworking a go), advertising and media professionals, aspiring models and actors, and bankers and corporate professionals washing the week’s business tension away. In one corner of the pub are three young men, their faces illuminated by cellphone screens. Every few minutes, one of them emerges from deep online meditation, holding aloft a profile of a woman he’s just encountered for the other two to comment upon.

“Oh dude,” one of them tells the other. “Seriously? No way.”

Two of them, Ashmit and Nikhil, are Delhi-based e-commerce professionals in their late twenties. The third, Dhruv, an old friend who has moved to Mumbai, works at a bank. In this trendy new pub, these three are trying to score a date through Tinder, the app that is hailed to have brought about a dating revolution.

Experienced thumbs swivel left and right. Pictures are zoomed in and out, profiles of people scrolled through and digested, all with practised ease and in a fraction of a second. Occasionally, these fingers pause, as their eyebrows furrow in deep contemplation. Women with unflattering pictures get swiped left into a trash can of rejects. Anybody deemed remotely attractive is swiped right. If any of these women at the other end of the network swipe their profiles right as well, it’s a match, and both are intimated of it so that they can start chatting and possibly set up a meeting.