How To ELIMINATE INSECURITY

In his latest book, one of Australia’s leading life coaches JAEMIN FRAZER equips readers with the tools, skills and confidence to build closer, stronger and happier relationships. In this edited extract he shares his seven ways to eradicate insecurity so you can show up to life unhindered by doubt, fear and self-limiting beliefs...

Personal insecurity is without a doubt the biggest inhibitor of human performance and potential. The fear of being found inadequate means all energy must be given to defending and proving, instead of growth and leadership. I have discovered that there are seven essential practices for overcoming insecurity.

1 DEFINE THE PROBLEM

(Your own opinion of yourself)

Understanding insecurity in its most accurate form reveals it as simply a problem within your own opinion of yourself. The problem is not the fear of failure or rejection. On closer inspection, the deepest fear is always about the personal implications of failure, rejection and being found out as somehow fake or inadequate. It is what these things would reveal about you that really terrifies you. As such, the problem is your own opinion of yourself. The great thing about defining the insecurity problem this way is that an opinion is the lowest form of knowing and can therefore be altered as soon as you are ready.

TAKE 2 RESPONSIBILITY FOR CREATING THE PROBLEM