When You Don't Trust Your Man

How to move on in your relationship after your partner has broken your trust

- Mo and Phindi Grootboom

THE question of what to do when your partner has been unfaithful is a tough one.  It’s very easy to decide what to do in the abstract, like many people who advise that you drop him like a bad habit or that you forgive and forget. It’s quite easy to armchair coach  other  people’s relationships on something you may not have experienced. When it’s  your relationship, what seems simple is complicated. But if you both decide to give the relationship another chance, it’s important to be all in.

TRUST AND HONESTY

If your man truly wants to save your relationship, he will have to opt for rigorous honesty and commit to a path of trust and restoration.

Trust is not automatically restored simply because he says the infidelity has stopped. Trust is regained through consistent and sometimes emotionally painful truth-telling and accountability. He must make a commitment to live differently and abide by certain boundaries, the most important of which is ongoing honesty about absolutely everything. He needs to start to fearlessly tell the truth no matter what, even when he knows it might be upsetting.