Now Our Marriage Is Open It's Hard To See How We'd Ever Go Back'

Last month, Jack’s* wife dropped a bombshell: she wanted to explore S&M the way they had 10 years before. But, this time, with another man…

Every time I feel like I’m starting to get the hang of being polyamorous, this new lifestyle throws me another curveball. The latest one involves kinky sex – and it’s a lot harder to handle than I’d imagined.

While I am beginning to settle into a routine of regularly seeing my new girlfriend (we have sex most times we meet, in hotel rooms and sometimes in the back of my car), we agree that kinky games can wait until we’ve built up a little more trust. But my wife, Lucy,* is taking a different approach…

She is having more trouble than me finding a ‘non-primary’ relationship that lasts for more than a few weeks. However, there seems to be no shortage of men on dating apps who are quite willing to be completely upfront about the kind of sex they are into – and she admits she’s attracted to men who want to be dominant.