Why Do We Love Being Submissive In The Bedroom?
Cosmopolitan Sri Lanka|April 2018

During Office Hours, We're All 'power to the Woman!' So Why Are So Many Feminists Happy to Hand Over the Reins Behind Closed Doors?

Danica Baker
Why Do We Love Being Submissive In The Bedroom?

BEING A FEMINIST AND BEING SUBMISSIVE HAS RECEIVED BACKLASH, BUT THE FEMALE SUBMISSIVE WHO PARTICIPATES IN BDSM CONSENSUALLY IS EMPOWERED

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5 PM and Mimi*, 32, begins packing up her desk. She's had another satisfying day at her work - a feminist education organisation that increases people's awareness of gender equality and fights for women's rights. As she leaves the office, she gets a tingle of excitement thinking about the night ahead with her man. She's trying to decide whether she wants to role-play with him, or be chained up and spanked. If you haven't figured it out already, Mimi identifies as sexually submissive. She's not alone: Many strong-willed women who hold positions of power in their daily life happily relinquish control when it comes to the boudoir.

'Hang on!' you may think. 'Why would an avid feminist be willing to degrade herself like that and be treated as inferior to her partner?' But relinquishing authority and choosing to be sexually submissive can actually be an act of power - and if we're honest, many women enjoy being dominated in the bedroom to some extent.

The submissive feminist

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