HOW TO CHECK YOUR BLIND SPOTS
Psychologies UK|June 2024
Learn to look beyond your peripheral vision, widen your perspective, and chase down new challenges, urges Holly Treacy
Holly Treacy
HOW TO CHECK YOUR BLIND SPOTS

As I navigated the familiar route to pick up my son from nursery, the routine act of checking my -physical blind spots sparked an unexpected line of thought. How many times had I glanced over my shoulder, ensuring safety on the road without a second thought? Yet, in that moment, I found myself pondering the unseen areas of my life, the emotional blind spots that, much like those in my car, might be keeping me safe but also limiting my perspective.

It was a simple drive, yet it led me to a profound realisation - just as my car's blind spots exist to protect me from harm, could there be daily habits and mental patterns acting as my emotional blinkers? Was I unconsciously operating with tunnel vision, focused solely on reaching my metaphorical destination unscathed? The more I reflected, the more I wondered: what aspects of my life had I been overlooking, unintentionally keeping myself confined to a smaller version of what could be?

If I'm honest, it wasn't actually a small life I was afraid of; it was stepping into the fullness of who I could be, and trusting in what I had to offer. I work to present the most confident, positive version of myself, but in truth, I'm often plagued by self-doubt in unknown situations.

Self-doubt, fear of failure, and imposter syndrome can significantly hinder personal growth and success in various aspects of life, according to therapist and author Abby Rawlinson. 'These insecurities can sometimes cause people to live in overdrive, where they do more than is necessary and more than is healthy, driven by a fear of failure or being unmasked as fraudulent,' Rawlinson explains. "They work long hours, frantically people-please, and obsessively over-prepare for things, just to avoid feeling like they're falling short,' she adds.

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