How to Tell Your Partner #MeToo
Cosmopolitan - South Africa|July 2018

Since October 2017, the #MeToo movement has dominated social media and our cultural conversation – for good reason.

Stacey Colino
How to Tell Your Partner #MeToo
The scope of sexual misconduct in this country is enormous. According to a COSMO poll, 84% of people say sexual harassment is a constant feature in the workplace. And as high-profile allegations keep surfacing in the news, millions of women are reliving their own experiences. Some are wondering how to talk about them – not on Twitter or Facebook but at home.

Tackling #MeToo – and the anger, confusion and heartache the topic may provoke – with your partner can be tough, says relationship therapist Laura Berman. ‘If it goes well, it can bring you closer together,’ she says. ‘But if your SO doesn’t get where you’re coming from or he is not empathetic, it can cause tension or even a rift.’

Read on for how to have this convo, whether you’re a #MeToo survivor or not.

1 Set an objective.

Pre-talk, think about what you want to get out of the discussion. Perhaps news headlines are pissing you off so much that you need to vent, or you feel it’s time to tell your guy your personal story. Once you nail down an intention, find a quiet, relaxed setting. Then bring up the latest public scandal, and ask him what he thinks about it.

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